Divorce will alter the course of your life, often leading you down an unexpected path. While you may have the life skills and experience to deal with anything that comes your way, your children aren’t always in the same position.
Life after divorce is particularly difficult on children, as it will call for a variety of changes that can result in instability.
These co-parenting tips can help ease the stress of divorce, both for you and your children:
- Put your children first: You don’t want your children to feel as if they are on the back burner. They should come first in everything you do. You can’t control what your ex does, but you have the ability to put your children above all else.
- Communicate: For example, if your ex is slated for visitation with your children in the near future, communicate with them to ensure that you’re on the same page.
- Keep a flexible schedule: A parenting agreement and visitation schedule can help, but they can only do so much. Flexibility is a must, as there will be times when it’s necessary to adjust your schedule to accommodate the needs of your ex and/or children.
- Don’t put your children in the middle: It’s easy to ask your children who they like best or talk poorly about your ex in front of them. And while it’s more difficult to keep your children out of the middle, that’s exactly what you need to do.
- Don’t argue about everything: Divorce doesn’t give you the right to argue with your ex-spouse about anything and everything you don’t agree on. If you feel an argument coming on and it’s an important point of contention with you, discuss your concerns when your children are not around.
These co-parenting tips are just a few of the many that can reduce stress on you and your children. As the days turn to weeks, you should be able to settle into a schedule that suits everyone.
Should your ex be more concerned with causing more harm than good, look into the legal steps you can take to request a child custody modification from the court.