Divorce is not easy for anyone in San Jose, but it can be particularly hard on children. At the Law Office of Lily L. Huang, we have observed that children involved in a divorce sometimes fall into unhelpful patterns of thinking, blaming themselves for the divorce or siding with one parent over the other. Fortunately, according to Parents Magazine, there are things that you can do to help your children through the transition.
Needless to say, your divorce will result in many lifestyle changes for your children. They will likely have to divide their time between their parents’ two residences and may have to leave behind a childhood home, school, friends, etc. The best thing that you can do for children of all ages after a divorce is to keep the child’s routine as familiar as possible and to stick to it as closely as you can. Where applicable, this includes visitation schedules. It is particularly important to adhere to the co-parenting plan to ensure that children receive quality time with both parents. This will help to allay any feelings of abandonment or separation anxiety that may arise.
Because children tend to blame themselves for their parents’ divorce, it is important to explain to those who are old enough to understand that the divorce is not their fault. Children who are older are better able to understand and express their emotions, so it is important to actively encourage them to talk about the feelings they have about the divorce and the changes that result. More information about kids and divorce is available on our website.