Whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or another entity, if you are like most people, social media plays a large role in your life. When you scroll through your various feeds, you feel connected with friends and family and they can keep up to date on your life developments as well.
But what happens when all that connectivity makes it all too easy to over share personal details or blast your soon-to-be ex during a divorce?
Below are tips for avoiding a social media scandal during divorce proceedings.
Don’t over share: You have a large social media network, but does everyone need to know every dirty detail about the ending of your marriage? No, so keep your posts to the world drama free and keep the specifics to yourself. Consider alerting your ex before changing your relationship status.
Don’t bash your ex: It will only create more negative feelings between you and your ex and force your friends to take sides in a battle they didn’t ask to be a part of.
Don’t post incriminating things: If you wouldn’t show your post to a judge, don’t post it. If you are mad or crying, don’t post. Take some time to calm down before saying something you might regret. This ties back to social media bashing, don’t say something that can be used against you during divorce proceedings.
Don’t cyber stalk your ex: The wealth of information and personal updates you can find when traveling down the Facebook rabbit hole can be appealing, but avoid it. Cyber stalking is unproductive to your grieving and will not help you move on.
Don’t sever all social media ties: Admittedly, there are circumstances when blocking your ex will be in your best interest. However, if you are attempting an amicable split or intend to co-parent once the divorce is finalized, blocking your ex may not be a good idea. In some cases un-friending or un-following is more appropriate.
Divorce can bring out the worst in both spouses, so taking the higher ground and staying above the muck can be the more difficult, but ultimately superior approach.